Biblical counseling is the best way to work on your marriage. However, it is sometimes difficult to describe to your spouse or friends. Here’s what we see:

  1. We are like your physical therapist after your injury…something has gone horribly wrong with the relationship, it hurts, and you don’t want to limp along for years to come.  Instead, you want someone to take you back to the basics and retrain each of you how to function the way marriage was designed by the Creator.
  2. We are like your extreme makeover crew…you realize a fresh coat of paint is not going to solve the problems with the existing structure and foundation.  There will need to be some parts of the existing relationship demolished, and new systems and features brought in to give your relationship a feeling of quality and strength. The Bible gives us an architectural structure upon which to live under God and with others.
  3. We are like your climbing Sherpa…the mountain you are trying to climb is extremely steep and treacherous, so we act as a guide to help you find the right route, and to help you carry some of the journey’s weight. We know the best routes and, though they are not easy, you are willing to trust the Holy Spirit, working in all of us, to lead you there.
  4. We are like your personal trainer at the gym…you could easily pay $40/month for the gym membership, but you are choosing to pay more per month because you are asking us to push you harder and further than you would choose to go on your own. Maybe you have “worked” on your marriage on your own, or with some other “as seen on TV” type of programs, but you are ready to admit that there are no shortcuts, and you are ready for the hard work as prescribed in Scripture to get your marriage in shape.
  5. We are like your financial adviser…the end goal of having a life that is without the burden of work is years and decades off, but that doesn’t mean you have to live without joy until then.  We make many small sacrifices and good decisions along the way to fully receive our long-term goals.  We learn to think and live as wealthy servants in the Kingdom of God.

The point we are trying to make is that there is no quick-fix, silver-bullet type of solution to moving from a struggling relationship to a fantastic marriage.  But at the same time, God has given us every good gift we need to have a marriage better than what we can selfishly imagine.  Ultimately, this requires surrendering many of our expectations and desires for marriage, and instead, aligning our hearts and actions to God’s expectations and instructions for us.